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Hi all, sorry I’ve not posted in a while, there’s a lot I’ve been focused on and working through in my life - I realise due to being inactive for a while, I’ve lost quite a few of you lovely followers, and whilst I don’t blog for numbers, I worry that I’ve let people down - Regardless, I’m going to aim to log in more often, and will be creating a new blog with link to the changes in my life, if you’d be interested in the URL please let me know - peace all
There’s no such thing as having too many books.
The only challenge is having to find a place for all of them.
On a learning term, and I hope this is okay to ask aloud, why do people self harm? What are the causes of it? I wouldn't self harm myself, but I did play with a [sewing] needle the other day, where needles aren't my forte, and it did get me curious.
No problem! Well, that’s the thing, there isn’t any one reason why people self harm.
One big causes of self harm is addiction to self harm - someone starts for a particular reason or as a particular way of coping, and they get stuck with it. It’s generally just a really, really bad and dysfunctional coping mechanism that can become addictive.
Some people self harm when they’re angry. Others when they’re sad. Or, dissociative, or self hating, or dysphoric, or stressed, or anxious, or having a panic attack. Some people self harm when they’re in a psychotic or depressive or manic episode. We’ve even had asks from people who self harm whenever they’re happy, which I’d imagine is sometimes a form of self sabotage.
I think knowing what your self harm is triggered by is really big in helping to identify useful alternative coping mechanisms. Self harm is, generally speaking, a way of reducing another feeling. When dissociative it re-establishes your connection to your body. When dysphoric it’s a form of revenge, body hatred, anger and/or an expression of disgust. When angry, it’s way of channeling that anger into something else - generally yourself, so often goes along with self hatred. When sad, it’s a way of letting that sadness out. Self harm can alleviate and override some of the symtpoms of anxiety or panic. Some people self harm in order to ‘punish’ themselves for mistakes they’ve made. There’s a lot of different reasons.
I’d like to stress though, it’s never a good coping mechanism. There are always alternative outlets for emotions and feelings that are healthy and functional, of which self harm is neither.
Love and hope,